So What’s It Gonna Be?


It’s only appropriate when this was the view from my windshield this morning, April 4, that I speak about the elation we feel about the opportunity to leave Minnesota. However, in all fairness to this state I’ve found so difficult to love, the discomfort of the past three years here had far more to do with God’s divine plan than the seemingly endless winters.

If you’ve spent any time listening to anybody talk about God and His method of operation, you’ve no doubt heard teaching such as, ‘The last shall be first,” or “If you want to lead, serve,” and “When you’re in need, give.” They seem like oxymorons but God told us in the Bible that His ways are not our ways, His ways are higher than our ways. And guess what? They work.

What we’ve experienced these last four years is another Biblical concept: The way up is down. 

This teaching encompasses the parts of the Bible I worked really hard to avoid. The stories that smacked of injustice were an annoyance to me in my naivete and lack of understanding. God refers to Himself all throughout His Word as a God of Justice, and frankly the characters who went through incredible trials and tribulation who, in my opinion, didn’t deserve them never sat well with me, and I had a hard time seeing any form of justice.

Until this year. Until we went through the deepest, darkest faith valley I’ve ever been in. Until He helped me climb out of that deep, dark valley and up on high where He lovingly put me back together again.

The path of this journey was so twisted and turning and held far more than this blog could contain, but suffice it to say I will never be the same. In the very best way possible. I am so thankful for that difficult path because along the way, as it got darker and narrower, I was forced to rid myself of all manner of baggage holding me back. I had no idea the fears that were lurking beneath my cheerful exterior, and my lack of understanding about God’s incredible love for me. I basically figured things this way: “If you love me, you’ll make things easy for me.” That may be a teeny oversimplification, but in essence that summed my desire to set up permanent residency on Easy Street.

I’m not saying the words “Bring It On” will be my new mantra, but I am far more understanding of His love and that times will, on occasion, be difficult. Never more than we can bear, and NEVER without His presence and provision through the whole time.

Midway through our deep, dark, three-month-long journey through the valley, we received a call from one of the NFL Executives requesting Mike’s help in an Advisory capacity, the potential for which thrilled Mike to his core. By the end of March, and the end of the wilderness experience, he agreed in principle to be an Advisor to the Executive Vice President of Football Operations. We are able to choose where we want to live, and our youngest child, John, only has two more years of high school left. So, as we face impending empty nester status, it feels like the time to put down some roots and have a place to call home no matter where we end up coaching (which Mike intends to do next year) is now.

So we’re headed back to


Texas is where Mike and I first met, and where the winters are much more bearable. Yes, the summers can be ridiculous, but frankly that doesn’t sound so bad.

It feels good to be out of the wilderness, but even better to know that God was leading us every step of the way to this very place. His ways are definitely higher than our ways. His ways are always good.



  1. Patti Carollo says:

    How wonderful and exciting Kim so very HAPPY for you and your family!! I love to read your posts on the blog they are always so encouraging to me. Gods continued BLESSINGS as you begin this next chapter in your journey!


  2. Grace Montenegro says:

    SO, SO HAPPY FOR YOU! God bless you!!!

  3. Jill Reynolds says:

    God’a timing and love are amazing. I am so happy for both of you. Maybe Mike can spend time on the advisory board at Baylor too. You just never know. I for one can understand the wilderness. I turned 60 in February and have been there for over 40 years as He has contined to be faithful and love me through it all. I am one if those people that constantly asks God to help me change and be more like Him. When you ask that as I have you must be prepared to be in the a Wilderness for a very long time.
    God Bless you

  4. Beverly Jefferson West says:

    Hi Kim,
    I was waiting to read about your next blog. I opened Facebook and you were there :).
    So happy for you & Mike and his next assignment. I was just in Dallas last month as I
    have an Aunt and girl cousins there. I know that God has a way of working things out
    in His time and there are many more exciting times on the horizon for you & Mike.
    Congrats to you both. Love, Bev

  5. Kim Carsten says:

    Congratulations to the two most inspiring, uplifting and inclusive people I know. Never have I seen so much grace and love through the deepest darkest faith valley. Ya’ll find a spot for me:)

  6. Kim says:

    Are you kidding? You have a permanent spot! And plus you have to design our party barn!!

  7. Nancy Babich says:

    Amen sister! So exciting! Good luck to you guys! Love this blog! Thank you for being so very kind to Janie. You truly made an impact on her life!

  8. Connie says:

    Kim – I always love how you share from your heart! How exciting for you all! We are thrilled for you and your family! God is really, really good. I hope to see you, too! Lauren is in Austin and loving it there. xo

  9. Cheryl Oldani says:

    How Wonderful for You & Mike! I’m so happy for you!

  10. Amy Matheny says:

    Oh Kim, sooooo happy for you and Mike! It’s an amazing thing when you come to the light at the end of the tunnel, what great things He has in store for us! – XO

  11. Marilyn says:

    Welcome back to Texas!

  12. Josie Havens says:

    We are so happy for you and Mike. God Bless your wonderful family. With Love, Josie & Jim Havens

  13. Lindsey says:

    Congratulations! This is so exciting for you guys! Have the best adventure back to where it all began!

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